A Practical Tool for Staying Calm

The Freeze-frame Technique for self-soothing

The design of HeartMath has industrialized an perfect rehearsal called "freeze-frame" which is ideal for self-soothing during your stepping back time. The best part is while it only takes a integrate of minutes to do it, the results can be quite astounding. The technique is based on the idea that, like movies, our known life is made up of up of a series of incidents - or frames- strung together over time. When flooded and overwhelmed, it helps to stop the movie--or ice just one frame. This frame can be the conflict you had with your partner before leaving to regroup and marshal your emotional resources.

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Once you ice this frame in your mind (you can close your eyes, or not, depending on what makes you feel comfortable), put your hand on your heart and pretend your heart is "breathing" as you inhale and exhale. Make a sincere attempt to shift your focus away from you racing mind or disturbed emotions to the area nearby your heart.

As you relax and calm down, try recalling the feeling of a distinct time or feel you've had in your life-or a good or fun time you have had.

Now, using your intuition, common sense and sincerity ask your heart what would be a better response to the situation, one that would fix the damage to your relationship. Then, listen to what your heart answers to your question.

Don't worry if you have trouble recalling that distinct time or feel - the technique will help you even if you just feel neutral - instead of positive- during this step.

Believe it or not, new scientific research is showing that the heart (and also your gut) as a matter of fact may be able to do some of what your brain does in terms of giving you answers; it may be that your heart as a matter of fact can function like a slight satellite of the brain - and hence may be able to give you some answers - just like your brain does.

A Practical Tool for Staying Calm